I went to #CIAA this past weekend and had the best time of my life! It was an awesome experience where I met so many people and had adult fun without stressing about the duties of motherhood. I had planned this trip for months and had extended an invitation to all of my friends to come from the single mothers groups, to locals, and all the way to family members back home. Many said they couldn't make it or they would let me know and others actually began to make plans with me. Long story short, I ended up arriving in Charlotte alone with really no solid plan of who would be with me. At first, I was scared but then I began to be resourceful and called on my "cabinet members", those solid friends that are always in my corner. This situation taught me that there are four friends that every mom needs in order to survive and balance motherhood, professional success, and personal life.
1. The Advisor
I call this person my "Tyrion". At any given moment, I can call them for advice, personally and professionally. I cry to them, laugh with them, fight with them, basically all the above. You could see this person as your free life coach. You may reciprocate the advisor role to this person and then again you may not depending on your role in their life. 9 times out of 10 this person does not have their life together at all ( hint hint... Tyrion) but they give the most solid advice and they really care about your well being. While at CIAA, I called on this person and they gave me advice and sent one of their friends to Charlotte to attend events with me. This person will always have your back and make sure you are always safe!
2. The Hypeman
I call this person my "Martin". This person is always yelling " You go girl!" This friend will hype you up professionally and personally. When I call on this person after a bad day at work, they remind me of who I am. They will tell me my own resume and say you are Georgina "Muthaeffin" Dukes and never forget that. Every mom needs a friend like this in their life! When I called this person, they were already at CIAA ( of course) and already had ideas for me to come out and have fun that evening. Although The Hypeman is vital to your success, they will also have you doing the most ratchet things in your personal life so BEWARE! All in all, this friend really has your best interest at heart. They want to see you win professionally and personally. They are always there for you when you need that ego boost.
3. The Comic Relief
I call this person my "Cardi B"! I am certain that I am this person to many people but I definitely have this friend in my corner. Laughter is food for the soul and this person keep my stomach aching from tears of giggles. I gave my comic relief friend a call while I was in Charlotte and they drove down that same day to hang out with me at CIAA. Their presence filled my room with goofiness, silliness, clownin', and every bit of laughter I can think of. You always need someone hilarious on your team to keep smiles on everyones faces and to remind you that you shouldn't take things so serious. Be happy and enjoy life!
4. The Confidant
I call this person my "Rock". This person knows everything about me good and bad. They know your deepest darkest secrets and its all free of judgement. This is usually a friend that you've known for years! They are a solid force in your life and they honestly want the best for you. You two know each other from front to back and the secrets you have are going to the grave with both of you. I called this person after CIAA to tell them about all of the trouble that I got into.... They laughed at me and helped me get my life back together for work and motherhood that Monday!
I worked hard to create a solid group of friends that will hold me accountable as well as let me live a life full of joy and happiness. I hope that you can use these tips and seriously evaluate the friends that you have in your life. All friends should have a role toward making sure you are successul as a mother, professional, and human being. Surround yourself with greatness!